The 3 Mindset Shifts That Helped Me Stop Chasing Happiness and Start Creating It
Written by Latasha Randle, Hack Your Life Coaching & Consulting
I thought I had it all figured out.
I was climbing the corporate ladder, had just landed a new leadership role, and was preparing to relocate from Atlanta to Kansas City. My two oldest kids were nearly through college, and the two still at home were more independent than ever. Life was finally slowing down - and yet, I felt lost.
With fewer distractions pulling at me, I realized something hard: I had spent so much of my life chasing happiness through titles, achievements, and busyness that I’d never stopped to ask if any of it truly fulfilled me.
What came next was a complete mindset reset. And in that journey, I uncovered 3 mindset shifts that changed my life - and can shift yours too.
1. From People-Pleasing to Purpose-Driven
I used to say yes to everyone (my boss, my team, my family, my church) because I thought being “available” made me valuable. I answered calls on my day off, skipped rest to prove loyalty, and pushed my own needs aside without hesitation. My schedule said “important,” but my soul said “exhausted.”
But when I finally had space to slow down, I realized I didn’t even recognize myself anymore. I didn’t like being busy for the sake of it. I was always on the go… but going nowhere.
Now? I’ve set boundaries between work and life. I protect my peace. I listen to my own voice before the opinions of others. And that has made all the difference.
2. From External Validation to Internal Fulfillment
For years, I relied on applause to tell me how well I was doing. After every presentation, I’d rush to check comments and messages - desperate for validation. If the compliments didn’t come fast enough, I’d spiral, even when I knew deep down I had done well.
Eventually, I realized I couldn’t keep outsourcing my worth.
Now I celebrate how I feel about my impact, not just how others respond to it. I trust the energy in the room. I walk off the stage fulfilled because I showed up as myself - not for the praise, but for the purpose.
3. From Perfectionism to Progress
Here’s a truth I had to embrace: waiting until it’s perfect is just fear dressed up in fancy clothes.
When I launched my first masterclass and later hosted my 3-day reset challenge, I intentionally gave myself less than three weeks to prepare. I didn’t have all the tech lined up. I wasn’t sure how the pieces would fit. But I committed publicly - and that forced me to move forward.
And you know what? I showed up, it worked out, and I grew.
Every time I choose progress over perfection, I give myself permission to evolve.
Today, I’m Creating Happiness......Not Chasing It
I’m no longer weighed down by what people think. I show up, do my best, and let that be enough. I’ve learned to say no without guilt, and yes with intention.
Most importantly, I’ve created freedom:
freedom from my past,
freedom from expectations,
freedom from beliefs that no longer serve me.
That’s the kind of happiness no title, paycheck, or applause can give.
And it’s available to you too!
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Latasha Randle, Hack Your Life Coaching & Consulting
I’m a coach, speaker, and advocate for personal transformation, especially for women who feel stuck in cycles that no longer serve them. My background spans both the public and private sectors, where I’ve worked in leadership, policy, and service-based roles. But my true passion lies in helping others break free from limiting beliefs and societal expectations so they can live with clarity, purpose, and power.
My journey hasn’t been linear. It’s been full of lessons, pivots, and moments of deep reflection. I’ve lived through what it means to reset your life, reimagine your path, and realign with your truth. Now, I use that lived experience to guide others through their own breakthroughs.
Whether I’m writing, coaching, or leading workshops, I’m always focused on creating space for honest self-discovery and growth. I believe our stories matter, and sharing them is part of the healing and the power.
I’m a badass.
I’m a badass because I show up - fully, consistently, and with heart. I’ve done the hard work of healing, unlearning, and rebuilding, not just for myself but so I can help others do the same. I’ve turned personal challenges into purpose, and I use my voice and platform to help women and business owners break through barriers, both internal and external.
I’m deeply passionate about any initiative that supports women and entrepreneurs, especially those navigating systems that weren’t built with them in mind. Whether it’s coaching a woman through a career pivot, mentoring a new business owner, or creating content that challenges limiting beliefs, I’m always looking for ways to lift others as I climb.
Being a badass isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being persistent, purpose-driven, and unafraid to lead with truth. That’s the energy I bring to everything I do.
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